The Gender Wheel Curriculum
Pronoun Protocol

The Pronoun Protocol is 12 agreements with the intention of creating a way of speaking that fundamentally includes everybody all the time and interrupts the cycle of gender stereotypes and assumptions. This moves us toward greater equity and respect between all genders and helps establish safe spaces for children free of the pressure of expectations.

**Note: We'll expand on each of the agreements below very soon. In the meantime, check out the Language Acquisition & Gender series that explores more in relation to how to use language to be more inclusive.

1. As a foundation, always use gender-inclusive words like people, person, kid, relative, sibling, parent, etc.

2. See people as people first without gender assumptions.

3. Don’t assume you know someone’s pronoun based on their name or appearance.

4. Use the singular pronoun they as a default in public for people you don’t know, instead of assuming he or she.

5. Use a person’s name if you don’t know their pronoun. If you must use a pronoun, you could use they.

6. Unless it is confirmed safe space, don’t ask someone’s gender or pronoun, it is theirs to tell or not when ready.

7. If someone shares their pronouns with you, use them.

8. Remember that people can have more than one pronoun and pronouns can also change.

9. There are more than two or even three pronouns. Learn about and practice ze, xe, using a name, and more.

10. If you slip into assumptions, apologize briefly if necessary, and simply return to the Pronoun Protocol.

11. Establish this as a standard to include everybody, whether or not there are non-binary people present.

12. Always use the Pronoun Protocol in public settings.

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